single vs not

[ramblingrose]

Which do you like better? I can't quite decide.
good things about being single
- being able to do stupid things without pissing anyone off
- not having to plan things
- spending whole weekends in pyjamas watching John Cusack films
- not having to downplay how much I love my cat
- not having to hold back the crazy
- nobody to tell me off about drinking/smoking/etc
good things about being in a relationship
- someone to drink with
- not having to go to the supermarket alone
- someone to phone when there's funny noises in the house
- having someone to look after
- less likely to get into "scrapes"
- sex whenever you want it

god that makes me sound awful.

[rogaine]

ooh, good thread!

sometimes i totally miss being single just because flirting is so darn fun. but i really think being in a stable relationship with someone who you trust completely and you know needs you just as you need him is so much better.

edit: my bf is currently puking in the bathroom and i think he fell asleep sitting on the edge of the bathtub.. i'm beginning to lean towards single...... hehe

[ramblingrose]

oh please, you happy people make me sick.

ps jk!

[The Tourist]

was he being sick from happiness?? :O

[i]

I think the "not having to plan things" is the only real upside of single life in that list that applies to me. I'm wearing pyjamas right now.

[The Tourist]

so am I.... but it's 1pm here so that's rather sad. :/

[Herr Lipp]

enjoy your studentness while you can, bum. soon you'll be out here in the real world, where you WONT know the schedule for daytime TV like the back of your hand!

[The Tourist]

I'm no longer a student! that ended over a week ago. Now I'm just happily unemployed. I can't be bothered to get work that I usually get.. i.e. pub/cleaning/general crap... so I'm holding out for career-land... that sparkling destination of vagueness.

[The Tourist]

and besides, I worked 6 days a week during my gap year, so I know the horrors of 'real world'.

[Herr Lipp]

what do you want to be?

(most horrid question ever)

[ramblingrose]

Don't be a nurse, El.

[The Tourist]

damn, i was gonna sign up for nursing... i'd be ready to go by the time i'm 27 or so.
And yes, that is a skanky question.

[ramblingrose]

You'd have to tie your hair back.

[ramblingrose]

OFF TOPIC! I made this thread and just had to remind myself what it was meant to be about.

[The Tourist]

I'd prob get the hair chopped, I was going to get it done today but I can't be arsed now.

[ramblingrose]

Chopped? Off? Surely? Not?

[The Tourist]

yar, it's symbolic of my days as a longhaired student... i think now, as i emerge from my chrysalis, i should shed the doe-eyed innocence and embrace a new thatch of sensible hair.

[Fab]

I quite like being single. I also quite like being not, but I really don't like being half of a couple. You know what I'm on about.

[The Tourist]

I don't like it when people in a couple are defined by being a couple. I hate it when they merge into one and become sterile and assimilated to each other.

[Fab]

Yeah, that's it!

[Static Split Screen]

3rd option :)

[ramblingrose]

I'm going to ignore Laura's post (in the nicest possible way) as it sickens me. I agree with the Frank and the Eliot, it's crap when people merge you into an amorphous two-headed blob, though at the moment, chance would be a fine thing. I just spoke to a friend on AIM for the first time in aaages and even though he's the most cynical unromantic person ever, even he is in love. Meh. I need a crush or something, but there's nobody worth crushing at on the mean streets of Leeds.

[Nak Nak]

Laura and I are really really different people.

[ramblingrose]

You also live miles away from each other, so are unlikely to become a hideous Craiganlaura beastie for a good while yet. Just wait til you live nearer, and every time you go ANYWHERE people will be all "Where's Laura? Why isn't she by your side AT ALL TIMES?". Well, silly people will be, anyway.

[Needs Wasabi]

Single..and it's fucking bullshit. I should still be with my ex. We were great for each other..but, he cheated on me.

Oh well.

[Leela]

oh please, you happy people make me sick.

ps jk!

Me too. Ciona, i'll move to england and we'll be single and bitter together


and I have a crush (that i have christened Hot Judo Guy) but I'm too afraid to dream, even though he did ask what my name was because he said "well I notice you work here a lot {i manage the facility where Judo practices} so I figure I should know your name" *swoon*

[Cheryl K]

I'm not very happy right now. I've never enjoyed being single. And I'm going to be honest- it's devastating knowing that all of my hopes and dreams for the future are shattered. I guess I associate being single with breakups. :\

[Leela]

breakups suck ASS. I'm still feeling it from my break up in freakin APRIL, man

[Needs Wasabi]

Me too. Ciona, i'll move to england and we'll be single and bitter together


and I have a crush (that i have christened Hot Judo Guy) but I'm too afraid to dream, even though he did ask what my name was because he said "well I notice you work here a lot {i manage the facility where Judo practices} so I figure I should know your name" *swoon*

I have a crush too. He looks like John Krasinski from The Office..and I'm too scared to ever talk to him. Haha.

[Fab]

Breakups do suck, it helps though that I got more attractive (not boasting, Ciona's seen how I used to look on my driving licence) and my ex got less so since we broke up :cool:.

Oh and Selena, you shouldn't be with your ex because he sounds like an arse, please get over it because you don't want to turn into me!

[Needs Wasabi]

What's wrong with you, Frank?

Just asking..feel free to answer or not. :) :grouphug:

[Fab]

Oh I was a terribly sad case for far too long after my ex and I broke up. Although I'm obviously ace now :D

[Needs Wasabi]

That's a pity. But, I'm glad you are better now.

I was slowly getting over my ex until everything started reminding me of him again..also, he emailed me last week to tell me that I was the "right" one in the relationship and that he fucked it up. Which is good..but, it just also bought everything back up again.

[Leela]

tell the bastard "yeah, that's right, you fucked up and now you got NOTHIN!" and then tell him to fuck off

I hate exes >:|

[El Loto]

I'm not assimilated to Katy. She likes the music I dislike most. She likes city, I like country. Nothing like a bit of diversity.

[Daysleeper]

For the first time in my life I actually don't enjoy being single. I met a girl who I absolutely adore and we are perfect when we are together. But me being me, I messed it up...and now I don't know...

[El Loto]

For the first time in my life I actually don't enjoy being single. I met a girl who I absolutely adore and we are perfect when we are together. But me being me, I messed it up...and now I don't know...

For the sake of humanity sort it out.

[Philippe]

Nah, I don't enjoy being single myself, to be honest.

:(

[El Loto]

Find a girl!

[Philippe]

Find a girl!

Sorry to emo up this thread, but you make it sound so easy.

Wait, I retract, emo kids tend to be as easy as fuck.

[El Loto]

Yeah but you don't try Philippe!!! We need a woman to sort it out, in a guidance sense I mean.

[Philippe]

Yeah but you don't try Philippe!!! We need a woman to sort it out, in a guidance sense I mean.

whatevs

[Static Split Screen]

Phil, wouldn't you be easy if you had a chance to be? :)

And Craig and I are completely different in a lot of ways. I don't think we'll ever end up being one of those boring one-person-two-bodies couples. I hope not anyway! Being different is what make relationships fun.

[Kelly Kapowski]

i'm pretty sure that when irish john and i finally live together we will be one of those couples D: we are just too much of two-peas-in-a-pod to not be : ( he's my best friend besides kate and with best friends all i ever do is be around them 24/7 since i dont really have that many other friends :D i dont like friends.

anyway, i think i have the best of both worlds right now b/c i love having someone to rely on and have love me and to share things with, but i dont have to be around him all the time to annoy me :D

being single is nice b/c like Cat, flirting and all that junk is fun, but i've only really, really liked 2 people my whole life so the chance of flirting blooming into anything meaningful would be almsot impossible for me, therefore i am happy to be with someone right now. Plus, i think i'm just a domestic-type person. Like, i can't wait to get married 'n shit D; Well, i can but i can't.

shit i have no idea what i'm trying to say. A part of me wishes i were like Samantha from SATC but i will always be Marge Simpson in my heart : (

[Fab]

I can I can't!

[The Tourist]

well Samantha has to regrow her hair cos of boob dodginess, whereas Marge's hair can get cut off and fall out and replenish instantly.
Thus, at least you will have hair, no matter what.

[ipris]

Which do you like better? I can't quite decide.
good things about being single
- being able to do stupid things without pissing anyone off
- not having to plan things
- spending whole weekends in pyjamas watching John Cusack films
- not having to downplay how much I love my cat
- not having to hold back the crazy
- nobody to tell me off about drinking/smoking/etc


i think you could do most of those things (or expect them) from a partner.

[alexandra]

i think you could do most of those things (or expect them) from a partner.

agreed! you don't wantto be with someone who just makes you feel bad about you being you.

[natasha elise]

i'll third that.
i think i have all the good single things listed in my current relationship.
especially that he adores my cat and talks to her all the time and he loves to lay around with me and watch movies all day. plus he is the one person i feel i can be my craziest around!
i think the trick is to shag your very best friend.

[Static Split Screen]

i'm pretty sure that when irish john and i finally live together we will be one of those couples D: we are just too much of two-peas-in-a-pod to not be : ( he's my best friend besides kate and with best friends all i ever do is be around them 24/7 since i dont really have that many other friends :D i dont like friends.

anyway, i think i have the best of both worlds right now b/c i love having someone to rely on and have love me and to share things with, but i dont have to be around him all the time to annoy me :D

being single is nice b/c like Cat, flirting and all that junk is fun, but i've only really, really liked 2 people my whole life so the chance of flirting blooming into anything meaningful would be almsot impossible for me, therefore i am happy to be with someone right now. Plus, i think i'm just a domestic-type person. Like, i can't wait to get married 'n shit D; Well, i can but i can't.

shit i have no idea what i'm trying to say. A part of me wishes i were like Samantha from SATC but i will always be Marge Simpson in my heart : (

Bailey I think we're twinz in so many ways :cry:

[rogaine]

i think the trick is to shag your very best friend.

lol. it's kinda true. although my bf is not my best friend. he's pretty darn close though. but i have two friends that are just so amazing that no boyfriend/husband could ever top them.

[Leela]

I think the secret to a good relationship is to be friends first. Is there anyone here that thinks it's not true?

[rogaine]

i do and i don't.
my ex that i was good friends with before we dated.. it was just way too weird when we tried, and after that our friendship was kinda ruined and we're not friends anymore. it's hard to explain but it was just never the same.

however, being friends shows that you have potential to be anything at all because it shows you like each other :)

[ramblingrose]

agreed! you don't wantto be with someone who just makes you feel bad about you being you.

Hmm, I don't know if anyone that tolerant actually EXISTS!

I also really want to hug Cheryl after reading her post. And Maddie, come and be bitter with me! Not that I am, really, I am actually a closet romantic.

[elisabeth]

I like putting my cold feet on somebody in the night-time.
But I don't like slowly becoming boring.
:darn:

But maybe this is just oldness and not from being coupled-up?

[Cheryl K]

I also really want to hug Cheryl after reading her post.



Thanks.

I just re-read my post and wow. D: I can be really emo sometimes. But it's just difficult because I don't have many people to talk to- my two best friends are Alex, and we still talk every day but I know he's tired of my "waaah, please, let's try this again, i miss you and etc." and my first ex, who keeps hitting on me. :cry:

But I just prefer to be in a relationship. I have good, close friendships, but I guess I believe in fairy tales and living happily ever after, and I feel like with a relationship, there's the potential that that'll happen. And right now I feel so lost and I don't know what to do. And that's a scary feeling for me, because I like being in control of my life. I know I shouldn't have to depend on anyone to feel secure, I just like knowing that down the line someone will be there and we can build a life together.

[Static Split Screen]

Aww I didn't know you guys broke up :( I'm sorry.

[El Loto]

I think the secret to a good relationship is to be friends first. Is there anyone here that thinks it's not true?

Katy and I were friends for about four months before we got together. I do think it helps as you can certainly have a head start in gauging your partner's personality.

[Nak Nak]

About a year for me and laura.

[Henriette]

Man, that sucks. Sorry.

Anyway, I'm pretty sure that I'll become obnoxious as well. I have this whole elaborate fantasy:

We've come up with this new idea for a children's book series... stories about a mole named "Gumbal" and his roly-poly counterpart, "Pooty" (named this because it farts after every word. Of course, Pooty is oblivious to it's own passing wind, and I guess that's the joke (or sort-of joke). X does this really great Gumbal voice (pronounced Gum-bull) and the entire time he only speaks as Gumbal. I'm Pooty (pronounced Poo-tea; emphasis on the sharp 'poo' (pause) 'tea' - if that makes sense) throughout our every exchange. We also bend over to connect to eachother (ass-to-ass) frequently (hips swingin') and sing out "OOOOOOOOOOOhhhhhhhhhhh, you're my best friend!" (to the tune of Queen). I even want to get matching clothes and be an X twin, but I guess that's where he can draw the line. Gosh. Now I can't stop saying Pooty.

Ted? You'd make a good X, good fellow. :(

[alexandra]

Hmm, I don't know if anyone that tolerant actually EXISTS!

They do! Just have to be willing to do the same things for them that you want.

ahhh freedoms!

[Daysleeper]

For the sake of humanity sort it out.

Oh, how I wish I could sort it out :(

It's such a rubbish situation to be in. I dont want to bore people with it, but I feel really frustrated.

I was with her then finished it because at the time I just wasn't 'feeling it', which looking back was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. We've stayed friends and have become really close friends. Since ending things with her, we have had moments where things have happened and we have hooked up, the last time being last month.

We have talked about things, and basically it seems that she has been worried that I'll reject her again...and now she is seeing someone else :cry: he is a fat faced fucker who is a boring as hell, which angers me greatly...as I can't understand why she is with him....blah..

Damn, I think i did just bore you all.

[El Loto]

NOOOOOOOO!!!!!> Oh no that's total poo. Maybe she is using him to make you jealous, I don't know?!?! Women eh?

[Nak Nak]

Shove him off, you are better for her, making that mistake has made you realise how much she means to you. Convince her of that.

[ramblingrose]

They do! Just have to be willing to do the same things for them that you want.

ahhh freedoms!


Hey, I'm actually a really good girlfriend, I'm the gift that keeps on giving.

[Herr Lipp]

GIVING HEADACHES

lollercoaster

[ramblingrose]

I may cause the odd bout of sighing and pretending to read the business section of the paper, but that's a small price to pay.

[Herr Lipp]

being female you will never understand the amount of times your bloke will just agree with you for the sake of it, or feign (and feign damn well!) interest in something you're talking/moaning about. it's just the way it is, women like inane chatter, whereas men arent so fussed.

[Herr Lipp]

p.s wogan is looking FINE in the new BBC adverts, no? he's ripped

[ramblingrose]

being female you will never understand the amount of times your bloke will just agree with you for the sake of it, or feign (and feign damn well!) interest in something you're talking/moaning about. it's just the way it is, women like inane chatter, whereas men arent so fussed.

My inane chatter is good and about dogs and serial killers and stuff.

[ramblingrose]

p.s wogan is looking FINE in the new BBC adverts, no? he's ripped

I'm looking to meet Wogan as he was 35 years ago, in the sense of I'd like to be married to someone that funny when he's 70. I don't find him physically attractive though.

[Herr Lipp]

I watch points of view religously.

[ramblingrose]

I watch it agnostically.

[Herr Lipp]

you don't know what it is that keeps bringing you back for more?

my friend does a brilliant wogan impression, and also a wogan with a stroke impression. but he doesnt like him so it's more of a mocking than celebratory impression, which I can't really "enjoy".

[ramblingrose]

How can you not like Wogan? does he have no soul? jeeeez. I like Ken Bruce and Jeremy Vine as well, but Wogan's the tops when it comes to Radio 2. I've got the Janet and John stories on my ipod.

[Jackal]

being female you will never understand the amount of times your bloke will just agree with you for the sake of it, or feign (and feign damn well!) interest in something you're talking/moaning about. it's just the way it is, women like inane chatter, whereas men arent so fussed.

Females do the same thing. Life gets boring, conversations are cloned, nothing happens at home, nothing happens at work. After 2 sentences there's not much to talk about unless there's some gossip, or info we've read about or saw on tv. The evening drags with different wonderful scenarios playing in your head about how great life would be if you just wanted to try and change it. But even if you try it just doesn't stick.

[ramblingrose]

Yes, I've listened to hours worth of how this or that piece of electrical equipment is better than that one, or how Fabregas isn't living up to his early promise. it's a two way street Fraser!

[Leela]

GIVING HEADACHES

lollercoaster

"You must spread reputation around before giving to Herr Lipp again"

[Daysleeper]

Shove him off, you are better for her, making that mistake has made you realise how much she means to you. Convince her of that.

Yeah, I know I'm much better for her then the aids face who is currently sniffing around her.

Recently, we had a deep conversation about 'us'...and I know that she has feelings for me...but we seem to be in two different places at the moment and I don't know how well we would work without messing up our friendship...it's a very shite situation to be in...this is the first weekend since we've known each other where we haven't made plans...it will be a good thing to have a bit of a break from seeing her.

We have become best friends...and, yeah...I'll stop rambling...relationships are shitty at times...grr...

[meepmeep]

I'd sure rather be single than be in a sucky relationship.

That said, it's getting really lonely & I'm feeling like the people I feel like dating don't exactly exist anymore. Not here at least.

[Fab]

Well I'd forgotten how lonely being alone can be.

God bless Gigner
http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e227/fab_android/1238921332_l.png

[Leela]

Word ;(

And I'm totally crushing on this guy and he seems to be semi-interested but I don't wanna give my hopes up because I can't take another heartache

[milpool]

yknow, there is really not much difference now. once you're in that really comfortable zone its kinda awesome cause you can be gross and wake up in day old make up and be disgusting and have the farts but you can still cuddle with someone and be slobs together. but then you can also get all fancied up and go out places together and have a good reason to turn down creepers.

but honestly, sometimes i wish i had met mark a bit later in my life, yknow. i'm only 20 and i've had one boyfriend and so i have no lame exes to bitch about with my galpals. just little stupid things like that are kinda sad i guess but whatev. on the bright side i didnt have to go through a bunch of horrible breakups to find an awesome guy.

D; lame-o.

[kendra]

same-o

except for the later in life. i wouldn't wanna hop ze bars

[jas1n]

i love being single for the most part. i can do pretty much whatever i want, flirt with girls, stay out late and not have to explain myself to anyone. i don't have to share my bed, i also don't have to worry about pregnancy scares. :yes: x forever.

[milpool]

yeah thats the other thing. i sleep much better on my own and wish i had my own bed again but whatev. );

[jas1n]

yeah thats the other thing. i sleep much better on my own and wish i had my own bed again but whatev. );

do you hog the bed? don't lie. :yell:

[The Tourist]

My cat and dog hog my bed. The other cat and dog don't bother, I wonder if they feel left out and jealous?

[Herr Lipp]

my cat is perpetually malting, which is lame. and it makes a loud racket cleaning itself when it's finished sleeping at like 5am. so i chuck it out of the window (literally, not dangerously).

[Kelly Kapowski]

wow my cat hogs the bed like you wouldn't believe. I have a twin/single bed and she takes up more than half of it b/c she doesnt lie length-wise but across! And once irish john and i were both in my single bed which was shit enough, but then my cat came in the bed too so there were 3 of us in a single trying to sleep D: :D :(

[The Tourist]

I have a pretty decent size double bed, but my cat HAS to be right next to me. Since I sleep on the right side of the bed I'm always shoved up to the edge, cos if I move away from him slightly he has to then move closer. This morning he actually put his arm/paw under my neck, like he was cuddling me! weirdo. My blackie dog has to go under the duvet, he ends up pressed against my leg. :O

[Herr Lipp]

I just kick it out of the way. better that than crushing it. also I would find it hard to have a wank with my cat breathing down my neck.

my cat, though not as tough as it's predecessor, is an outdoor-cat at heart and so quite hardy. we always give our cats freedom, they've got to learn about roads or they'll be more likely to get run over on the rare occasion they do get out (if they were a house cat i mean).

[The Tourist]

he's got the option of a cat flap, but he only uses that for toilet purposes. the other cat is outside most of the time, he's started coming in at night now it's getting colder. and if I so desired a wank I'd make sure to get the cat/dog out of my room first.

[El Loto]

When I used to stay over at my Gran's her dog would lie on top of the duvet where the hot water bottle is. This meant I had to manouvre my gangly legs around the ball of King Charles Cavalier.

[Leela]

Everytime my roommate's cat sleeps with me she always ends up sleeping RIGHT ON TOP of my bladder, and she's a fat little porker too, so I always wake up before I need to.

[ramblingrose]

I don't let my cats in my room much, and they're not allowed in there at night because they sleep for a bit and then start biting me and stuff.

[kendra]

I have a pretty decent size double bed, but my cat HAS to be right next to me. Since I sleep on the right side of the bed I'm always shoved up to the edge, cos if I move away from him slightly he has to then move closer. This morning he actually put his arm/paw under my neck, like he was cuddling me! weirdo. My blackie dog has to go under the duvet, he ends up pressed against my leg. :O

Your animals are the sweetest things ever!

[The Tourist]

yeah, but they're all attention whores and don't leave my side, EVER! Well, that's ginger catface mainly. I have never known a cat like him, he is my shadow.

[Static Split Screen]

but honestly, sometimes i wish i had met mark a bit later in my life, yknow. i'm only 20 and i've had one boyfriend and so i have no lame exes to bitch about with my galpals. just little stupid things like that are kinda sad i guess but whatev. on the bright side i didnt have to go through a bunch of horrible breakups to find an awesome guy.

D; lame-o.

Yeah, I know what you mean. And I HATE how everyone's always like "first relationships never last" blah blah blah. For chrissake, I know oftentimes they don't last, but I've heard it at least 200 times. And there are instances where they do. Get over it, stop patronizing, and let me enjoy my relationship. And yeah, I don't have any exes either, and sometimes I wish I'd been able to explore a little bit, but then I realize I wouldn't want to go out with idiots and have to deal with breakups so I'm not too bothered.

[Static Split Screen]

wow my cat hogs the bed like you wouldn't believe. I have a twin/single bed and she takes up more than half of it b/c she doesnt lie length-wise but across! And once irish john and i were both in my single bed which was shit enough, but then my cat came in the bed too so there were 3 of us in a single trying to sleep D: :D :(

D'aww I love it when my kitty comes and cuddles us, but she curls up into a little purring ball and it's so cute. I hope the next time Craig comes out my two cats don't hate each other as much so we can cuddle with both of them! :love: