Humour my lack of knowledge of the female psyche please =)

[Livelivemydarling]

I'm not really sure, but what kind of guys are girls into the most physically? Is it like, athletic but not like a bodybuilder? Or is it just like different for everyone..

Basically, I don't know about girls, but when guys walk first into a room, it's like, a quick scan of all the girls, then splitting them into roughly 'good' and 'nah'. Is that kind of like with girls with guys? If so, what do most girls (not just yourself) of you look for in a first impression for a guy that they'll find attractive?

Thanks. =)

[Livelivemydarling]

More questions will follow I guess. =)

[Herr Lipp]

i can see this thread bombing...

up to the girl man. dont you remember bailey saying on another thread she's going through a nerd phase right now? dungeons and dragons players? another example: im fairly athletic (not especially but more so than I am book-ish) and there was this girl who I had a crush on at my last job. Found out that she was going out with someone who went to my old school. She was fit as owt so was expecting it to be one of the rugby players (the jocks) or football players, but low and behold it was this non-descript, kinda geeky guy that i remembered. I was in two minds about it - annoyed that such a hot girl was being taken up by THAT THING, but then realising it was a good thing as you dont have to be an adonis or a model to get the gangster birds, you just gotta be lucky!

[Static Split Screen]

Honestly I don't even have boy radar out anymore, I just don't really care. If I do ever see a cute boy walking around I approve, but then go on with my day. I've always liked dark-haired thin-yet-toned boys with nice bone structure. And I got one of those now so I am content. :D

[Cheryl K]

Personally, I like average, slightly dorky looking guys. And I'm a sucker for brown eyes. But usually, I'm more interested in what someone has to say, rather than what they look like. But then again, I am drawn to people who have that whole familiar-but-I-can't-quite-put-my-finger-on-it look.

And btw, athletic guys are eh. Not my thing.

[Needs Wasabi]

I like guys with glasses.

[kendra]

There are always extraordinarily good-looking men that will stand out in a crowd, just like women - and I think for the most part those will be universal among all women. BUT the kicker to that is, it's not necessarily going to be the same kind of guy all of the time.

As far as I can tell women love all sorts of men (and all sorts of women). Thin, muscular, short, tall, fat, nerdy, jock, dark, light, etc. When I walk into a room I am not immediately bombarded by sexual signals - ie, I don't separate the room into HAHT and NAHT because most people just aren't that extreme. My radar is geared toward slim, average height men with dark hair, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't find a short, stocky, redheaded guy attractive (if he in fact was attractive). Women's attraction is not as physically immediate I think, so I might not be initially attracted to someone but find them more agreeable as time goes on and I get to know them better. Then I might start noticing what great teeth they have, or how cute it is when their eyes crinkle when they laugh. AWWW.

[Herr Lipp]

I like guys with glasses.


wicked :) i'm a part time wearer though

[Herr Lipp]

or how cute it is when their eyes crinkle when they laugh. AWWW.

theres an asian joke there somewhere but it's too late on a friday afta work!

[Needs Wasabi]

:yes:

I don't think I've ever seen a picture of you Fras.

I know you haven't seen one of me cause of that comment you left me one time. Thing is..I don't have a camera right now. I have some pictures I took about a year ago though. And nothing has really changed about me since then.

Haha.

[Herr Lipp]

err...hold on. I'll pm you "the article" lol.

[Kelly Kapowski]

fras that's cute.

i mostly agree with kendra, as there's always going to be the definitive good looking guys and girls that most people will agree are, in fact, good looking and you can easily pick out of a crowd. If you want to go after such girls, they are more likely to have a "type" than most other girls. That being good looking, maybe a little sleazy, and really good at beer pong.

HOWEVER, if you are talking about the more normal population of girls, I don't think you can pinpoint one general type girls like. Maybe it'd be athletic but not bodybuilder, but for me, and i am not even kidding here peopleee, it's mostly all about personality. And if you have a great personality, you can become 15x more attractive in my eyes. So because of that, i've liked guys who are dwarfs, guys that are 7' tall, obese, anorexic, darkest black, whitest white, and everything in between. Dungeons and Dragons guys...everything.

So just be yourself and some girl will seek you out or something. Just don't be a jerk and don't try too hard to impress a girl and if yer funny that's definitely good, but don't try too hard to be funny. Oh i like when guys make eye contact across a room, that's hot.

[Jackal]

Women like all kinds of guys, I would imagine.

No matter what you look like there's a chick that's into that.

Young girls are fucked in the head, so you can't judge yourself on how they treat you. They are into "looks" too much. As girls age they start to learn that the inside counts more than the outside.

Read books about women.

[Leela]

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and I like guys wearing glasses too

[Atomsk Iscariot]

and I like guys wearing glasses too

I like guys with glasses.

All riiiiiight. [/sleaze]

Bailey's explanation gives me hope for the WORLD because it's kind of beautiful.

[Peter]

I'm going to venture to say that every girl likes something different in a man...so the best advice to for men is "be who you are" or something equally cliche.

[Livelivemydarling]

Thanks for the help. =)

I'm kind of looking for portraying a kind of good image oon face value only, to attract the first time arounx. From what you guys/girls have said, I guess I won't try and be something I'm not, but I would still like to make sure I don't give a bad first impression.

Could I ask, what is it that you (and the vast majority of women) generally speaking, don't find attractive about men physically and first impression actions? Stuff like, crooked teeth, wispy moustaches, too loud guys or something?

Thanks.

[Herr Lipp]

err they said already man. that shit is superficial and only a handful of girls - who are probably out sucking off high school football players in the back of their cars rathre than posting on the internet (!) - will automatically write youoff for having a british smile etc etc.

just try and be friends with a gash (lol sorry that really is an awful word) and something will happen if it's gonna. if it doesnt - then the hermit life in a cave isn't so bad. or alcoholism... nah im just messing. the proof is in the pudding - look around you to see guys who you would say are less attractive than you but with a girl who loves them on their arm - they did it so its not impossible! be patient, my lad.

[Atomsk Iscariot]

they did it so its not impossible!

Basically this is my philosophy at the moment.

[Livelivemydarling]

err they said already man. that shit is superficial and only a handful of girls - who are probably out sucking off high school football players in the back of their cars rathre than posting on the internet (!) - will automatically write youoff for having a british smile etc etc.

just try and be friends with a gash (lol sorry that really is an awful word) and something will happen if it's gonna. if it doesnt - then the hermit life in a cave isn't so bad. or alcoholism... nah im just messing. the proof is in the pudding - look around you to see guys who you would say are less attractive than you but with a girl who loves them on their arm - they did it so its not impossible! be patient, my lad.
But I want sex right now! =(

[Livelivemydarling]

Nah just kidding. Thanks for the insight everyone.

[Herr Lipp]

go get a hooker, vulnerable child etc.

[sleepy sinner]

That could be half your problem right there - nothing more unattractive than a guy who is just after sex. That's not the right attitude (unless at that particular moment the girl just wants random sex too...hmm) and buddy, we CAN sense it and we can tell from the moment you start talking to us what your aim is - as in, you really are just up for a genuine chat or to have fun on a night out with us and to possibly get to know us better, or you're just in it for fun for yourself and to stroke your own ego by scoring.

[Jackal]

true.

[kendra]

You know what's really skeezy tho is the guy who tries super hard to be all chatty and "getting to know you" over several meetings when he's just got skeeze written all over him.

[truie]

i like guys like james iha with glasses (lanky and nerdy)
or guys like jimmy chamberlin with BIG muscels (buffed up).
-from one extreme to the other.

[kendra]

god this person just gets better and better :D

[kendra]

"I like guys like James Iha" :D

[The Tourist]

no shit! you married fake James, but then you complain that his penurz alone can not wobble you to glory.
You know, I think fake James might be lurking somewhere, he might be crying at your cutting remarks.
erm.

[Static Split Screen]

I have a feeling she's honest with him. ;)

[kendra]

We are havin' fun, Mr. Sir. :hate:

Plus, the Real Will is way better than a fake james would evah be, thanks very much D:

[Atomsk Iscariot]

the Real Will

This should be his hip-hop name.

[ramblingrose]

lol at Will-related comments above

There are people who make me want to do a sick on myself who other girls think are HAWT and people who make me lose all reason who other girls think are BLEUGH so, really, you can't try and be some kind of man for all seasons.

[Atomsk Iscariot]

The lesson boils down to "you can't please everyone."

HIYOOOO.

[The Tourist]

We are havin' fun, Mr. Sir. :hate:

Plus, the Real Will is way better than a fake james would evah be, thanks very much D:

You know I was trying to be funny. :(
I'd much rather the Real Will.I.Am than the fake one, or the fake James for that matter.

[Livelivemydarling]

Ok question two: Is a curved penis any worse than a straight one? =(

[Barbarian Love Elephant]

also why is the penis curved?

[Livelivemydarling]

you're mean. =(


(twas born that way)

[Herr Lipp]

www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk

[Livelivemydarling]

www.embarrassingproblems.co.ukOh sweet jesus!!

[Barbarian Love Elephant]

really

born that way

hmmmm

they just look weird and i associate pain with curved penis

im sorry livelivemydarling,i'll kiss it all better

SUIT YOU SIR

god where is the sonic girl gone?

[truie]

geeze, you are really sad- you have to come on here to check if females would find you ok to go out with- or sleep with.
*shame*

[Leela]

oh, dear

:geihand:

[sleepy sinner]

You know what's really skeezy tho is the guy who tries super hard to be all chatty and "getting to know you" over several meetings when he's just got skeeze written all over him.

Yes! OR...the ambush! When a really personable just fun-seeming, normal [slightly ugly] guy and/or his mates starts chatting to you and your mates (on a rowdy night so you don't think its creepy that they noticed you cos you've taken over most of the pub) and you all start doing something purely friendly like playing a game of pool. And you're totally relaxed because you're not getting any vibe and you're happy just to chat and make a new friend for the night. But then.....out of nowhere at the end of the night 'Do you want to meet up sometime?' And still there was no overt pick-up vibe whatsoever! And I was like...'uh...you mean for coffee or something?' and he's like 'Oh. Coffee. :('

WHAT IS THAT???!!!!

[Daysleeper]

Yes! OR...the ambush! When a really personable just fun-seeming, normal [slightly ugly] guy and/or his mates starts chatting to you and your mates (on a rowdy night so you don't think its creepy that they noticed you cos you've taken over most of the pub) and you all start doing something purely friendly like playing a game of pool. And you're totally relaxed because you're not getting any vibe and you're happy just to chat and make a new friend for the night. But then.....out of nowhere at the end of the night 'Do you want to meet up sometime?' And still there was no overt pick-up vibe whatsoever! And I was like...'uh...you mean for coffee or something?' and he's like 'Oh. Coffee. :('


WHAT IS THAT???!!!!

OMG...You just described me :cry:

It's because it takes us all night to summon up the courage to ask you and we can't flirt :oh:

[Peter]

but Paul, you wouldn't mind coffee, would you? If it led to sex, I mean.

[Daysleeper]

but Paul, you wouldn't mind coffee, would you? If it led to sex, I mean.


I don't drink coffee :cry:

[Herr Lipp]

more tea, vicar?