parents and drinking

[Jackal]

Ah, the guilt!:)

My parents didn't drink. In the summer after yard mowing my dad might have 1 or 2 beers. That's it. We were taught that alcoholics were losers..etc...etc...and drinking was a sin and parents that drink don't care about their children.
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I drink about 4 times a week. Twice a month (or more) I have too much (in my conservative opinion of what should be), enough to where I know my son can tell I'm drunk. Not falling down drunk, just barely over the line.

I guess I feel I should never have more than 2 beers and I should NEVER get all loopy. I hate myself when I listen to the voice in my head and keep drinking when I think I should stop.

We both drink every weekend and I feel like we shouldn't. I guess I see no problem with drinking one beer every day. But I don't think a parent should drink too much in front of their child, to where they are loosing motor function.

I have tremendous guilt because of my upbringing. If your parents drink a little excessively---what is your opinion of them?

Or your thoughts on this topic.

[Fab]

My mum and her boyfriend split a bottle of wine about 4 times a week over a meal, and they'll sometimes have a g+t or something while they're making food or something, I've never thought either of them have been even approaching drunk.

I've seen my dad drunk a couple of times, it had no real effect on me, it's not like I lost respect for him or anything. I consider my dad a good friend, but I still respect him as a parent and stuff.

I dunno, as long as you're not totally hammered and spewing abuse at people and vomiting uncontrolably I think you're fine, but an obvious problem is that you don't know what kind of drunk you'll be 'til you get there.

[Static Split Screen]

My mom bought me and Craig booze for his 18th birthday.

My mom is a hilarious drunk. When I was 12 I remember being affronted and embarassed, but now I think it's so funny. Mom called me from Vegas when she'd had a few too martinis and I had a stich in my side.

I've never seen my dad drink, or be drunk. I think he drinks crappy cheap beer when he's alone.

[El Loto]

My father has been drunk a few times that I have seen. It was more giggly drunk altohugh once he did hot foot it to the toilet to relieve his stomach. My mother has only been tipsy once, I mean she was barely drunk. I don't think it's ever had any effect on me, more humourous. They do drink a couple of glasses of wine at dinner but that never does anything to them.

[Noshus Klam]

My dad gets drunk a lot, but lately he hasn't been drinking as much. I'm not trying to excuse it or anything, but he has has a very hard life. Both of his parents were dead by the time he was 17 and his relationship with the rest of his family to this day has been extremely strained. He's rather successful these days in life, earning more than $100,000 a year from his retirement pay from the Navy and the wages from his new job combined, but there are certain things you just can't get over now matter how much your life has turned around.

[Herr Lipp]

:lol: all you lot playing it down ha ha ('cept Kris) my dad gets battered when he has a drink. Me and him was drinking for 14 hours on Christmas Day (started at 10am), he outdrank me though I had to go and sleep it off at about 3pm then started again at 6pm!

I wouldnt say he's an alcoholic though, and without going into too much detail, I know when someones an alcoholic, from experience.

[Fab]

I didn't play it down, I told it how it was.

[Jackal]

I feel a little better! Thanks.

I just felt crappy lately about it all. Because I went overboard and did the puking all day thing for the first time in 6 years. And I seem to be giving in more often to drinking too much.

I thought I was past all that and responsible now. I thought thought the crazy girl that just wants to get way fucked up was being controlled.

My husband hates when I go too far, and then he tells me to slow down, and then I turn into an awful, angry drunk bitch. That only happened twice this year, but it scares me (and him).

I just have to set up a 2 drink limit and stick to it I guess, even if I don't get buzzed enough.
:(

[Noshus Klam]

Originally posted by Jackal


I just have to set up a 2 drink limit and stick to it I guess, even if I don't get buzzed enough.
:(

"ok, just two long island ice teas tonight then!"

[Jackal]

"ok!"

I should probably wait until the new year to cut back anyway.:)

Oh yeah, Kris, I just want to give your Dad a big hug! He should be proud of himself.

[Barbara]

My mom hardly ever drank at all, she doesn't like alcohol and after I turned 21 I've only been able to convince her to have a drink with me very rarely, and for her it's always just one and something really light and girly :D Mostly she looks down on drunkenness and alcohol consumption in general.

My dad I never saw drunk or drinking, when I was younger I thought he didn't either but when I got older I found out he was actually quite an alcoholic, but just really good at hiding it. He also smoked cigarettes, something mom never did and I didn't know that he was a smoker until I was about 15, he was good at hiding that too. My grandpa also was a heavy drinker/smoker in his younger years and so I get a big lecture from him all the time about how bad they are for you.

When I have alcohol usually I'll drink for a few days in a row till it's gone and then not drink for 2 or 3 weeks. I have been pretty drunk before and stuff but alcohol isn't my favorite thing, I think me smoking cigarettes has probably been worse on my health than my occassional drinking. I don't have a bad opinion of alcoholics or people that enjoy drinking, just when they do really stupid shit while drunk.

[Hi There, Am Pam]

It's strange, there is an automatic guilt associated with drinking to intoxication. I think it always depends on the behavior while drunk more than anything else. Some people get violent when drunk, while others just get goofy.


My parents never really drank much. I remember stories about my dad & his friend staying up late, playing Atari and drinking whiskey. I think that wasn't a common thing though. It's strange, I grew up in a rather tame environment, and sometimes I regret the severity of the "avoid this at all costs becauses it's evil" attitude. There really should be a healthy middle.


I'm generally the "happy drunk" when I drink. I've had my melodramatic drunken moments, but now I just tend to have fun without any problems. As a humourous aside, I did, however, on New Years, throw up in someone's truck (who I didn't know) while in the middle of a smoking session. It was mainly a mixture of things more than anything else, but I do wish I didn't reach that level. Now I'm helping chip in to get the guy's truck detailed. Oops.

[Spaced]

My parents drank in front of me for as far back as I can remember. Now we all have a drink with dinner most nights, but not to excess. Dad would often come home seriosly drunk after a night out with mates, but would generally collapse into bed or fall asleep somewhere, so that didn't really make much of an impact. I think being exposed to alcohol for so long conditioned to an extent,so that in my teens I didn't feel the need to go out and drink myself stupid at every opportunity. Not to say it didn't happen at all, but drinking wasn't anything new. So generally, so long as drinking is done with respect to the situation, I don't see a problem.

[Herr Lipp]

Originally posted by Hi There, Am Pam
As a humourous aside, I did, however, on New Years, throw up in someone's truck (who I didn't know) while in the middle of a smoking session. It was mainly a mixture of things more than anything else, but I do wish I didn't reach that level. Now I'm helping chip in to get the guy's truck detailed. Oops.

Oh I hate being at that level. I know what you mean too, it's not always greening out (I think its called "pulling a whitey" in US), it can be a combination of drink/eating something funny.or maybe even being a little bit ill/run-down.

[Static Split Screen]

Originally posted by Spaced
I think being exposed to alcohol for so long conditioned to an extent,so that in my teens I didn't feel the need to go out and drink myself stupid at every opportunity.

I completely agree. My mom will let me have one drink pretty much whenever, she doesn't care. And I never got so drunk I didn't know where I was or what I was doing (though it maybe happen...one day).

[Herr Lipp]

I've never been "paralytic" - which is the ultimate word to describe it - but I have been with people like that. It's pretty worrying, they have no recollection of hours of their nights, bad for a boy, but even worse for a bird.

[Noshus Klam]

Originally posted by Herr Lipp
I've never been "paralytic"

My British friend always uses that term. Even today, he was all like "oi geeza, we was on the piss yesterday and i was paralytic."

[Herr Lipp]

Ha Ha. You cant trust someones own description though, you need proof, or they need to have a tattoo or a piercing they have no idea about to believe them!

[negatifzeo]

My mother has become a bit of an alcohlic lately. I'm not angry at her, but I do pity her. All of us kids are out of the house, she can do what she wants with her life.

[DrHibbert]

I think it has more to do with how parents treat their children in general. People could drink a lot, but if they're still great parents and quality people then that alone is not going to fuck up their kids. But if they're already terrible parents and then add alcohol to the equation, that will probably make the situation a lot worse.

My parents hardly ever drank, but I wouldn't have cared much if they did because they were really great parents. I think it's only a bad thing if it's really serious or is in combination with generally bad parenting/behavior.